30 Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. 31 Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!


This blog post has been a very long time in the making. Pretty much my whole life. As a disclaimer, I’m not a writer, so this may not be the most eloquent thing you’ve ever read, if that’s what you’re looking for you might want to try this post by Nancy Smith. This article and a teaser is saw for this movie starring Pierce Brosnan got me to thinking about it again. There is a clear double standard. It’s always been there, and unfortunately will probably always be there. I’m not trying to change society (global), because, quiet honestly, I don’t think it will ever change. What I’m changing is ME.

I have never been society’s ideal of Feminine. I am 5’9″, I wear a size 14 in clothes and a size 11 in shoes. My ring finger is a size 8 and my middle finger is a size 10. My shoulders are probably the same width as most football players. I don’t have much of a waist, and am fairly small chested. In a nutshell, I just don’t fit “THE MOLD”. A “skinny” weight for me is 170, and a comfortable weight (one I can keep without too much effort) is 185. So, as you can see, according to society, I would not make People’s top 10 hottest people. And for most of my life, I’ve loathed myself for it. And at 42, I am finally tired of it. Sick of it. MAD!

This post is not against women, in fact, I wold love nothing more than to tell each and every one of you exactly how BEAUTIFUL I think you are…simply because you are YOU. I’m tired of a society that boils us down to what dress size we wear as to whether we will be deemed worthy of respect. I’m fed up with MYSELF, listening to that society and hating myself for not being what they say I should be. I don’t think I’m going to change society, but I do know I can change ME. Who should I listen to? The CREATOR…. the one who first imagined me, then formed me and breathed HIS BREATH into me? The one who looked at me and fell instantly and madly in love? Or a Society who only cares about selling me the next big weight loss product and will stop at nothing to make me hate myself in order to get my money. The God, who loves me infinitely or Society, who doesn’t even know my name much less how many hairs (yes, some grey ones are in there) are on my head. Why am I choosing to listen to a cold, heartless system that at it’s core is only out to destroy people? I’m not sure, but I’m done. NO MORE.

I’m not going to argue what Eve might have “looked” like in the Garden when she was first created….because quite frankly there is no way of knowing (and if someone says there is, they’re wrong)…and quite frankly, I don’t think IT MATTERS. What I do know is that when God created Eve He looked at her and saw BEAUTY. Whether that beauty was fat, thin, soft or toned…HE SAW BEAUTY. SHE WAS HIS. SHE WAS PERFECT. And so are YOU, and so am I.

This piece is not a slam against women, it’s a battle cry FOR WOMEN. If you are hanging all your hopes on loosing that last ten pounds to love yourself, I hate to break it to you, but it won’t be enough. I’ve lost those “last ten pounds” and still hated myself. Still didn’t measure up. That new movie star came along, and now it was ANOTHER last ten pounds to loose. Even if the tides were to turn, and big would be “in”, why is it okay to make women who are naturally thin feel bad about themselves? It’s a vicious system, only set to destroy lives and to destroy relationships. Am I’m not playing any more.

I WILL love myself (even with those extra 10, 20, 30 pounds…even being scrawny too skinny, to wrinkled, to grey haired)

I WILL do my best to let every woman I come in contact with KNOW SHE IS BEAUTIFUL because she is a Creation of the Living God

I WILL listen to what I know is true

I WILL be deaf to the lies of a Society that is only bent on my destruction





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